In today's episode (part 2 of my conversation with Kate and Adam--you can listen to part one here), I ask them what it's like to go from dog-parents to parents of a teenager overnight. They outline the differences between fostering younger kids and fostering teens, how it works as young professionals with lots of business travel, and (my favorite part), share their only two house rules.
Click play below to listen, or use your iTunes app (and please leave a review): Real Foster Parents of Colorado on iTunes.
And, I can't think of a smooth way to share this tragic news with you: Just last week, as I finalized edits on this episode, I heard from Kate that Adam had died unexpectedly while traveling for work. I only had the joy of meeting Adam once, while recording this podcast, but have become close with Kate this past year as we’ve served together on the Foster Parent Steering Committee and in general shared ironic humor about being foster moms.
I am so thankful we made a date to get Adam’s perspective as a foster dad on tape, because his life tells a needed story that being a dad is about being present and attentive to a kid, more than it is about his own ego in biologically fathering a child, or even having memories of baby-hood and toddler antics to keep him invested through the puzzles of raising a teenager.
Kate and Adam spent the last 18 months building their life up as a support to one child who needed their stability to launch into her own adulthood, and his death only strengthens our resolve to bring more fun, stabilizing, attentive men into this work of helping kids and families.
Adam was kind and thoughtful, and I am better for the short two hours I got to spend with him. Kate told me that what Adam would be most upset about, is being yet another person who has “left” A, who they have raised for the past 18 months. His dedication to her is worth celebrating and honoring, even as it leaves us mourning for his family.
Kate and A are not in financial need, but donations to the Rocky Mountain Rescue Group in his name would honor his memory. He planned to volunteer there this year.
In the podcast, we discuss the ways you can support kids in foster care, even if you're not ready to become a full-time foster parent.
- Sponsor a new family helper (monthly meal drop-offs and other customized help) for a foster family. Click here to sponsor $200 once or $20 monthly. We are slowly adding helpers around the Denver area, but please feel free to inquire, and we'll do our best to get you matched.
- Inquire with A New World foster care agency (about three hours of training and paperwork to be approved to babysit in ANW's foster homes). Call Randi at (720) 937-7004.
- Inquire with Maple Star Colorado (four training classes, plus CPR and paperwork to be approved to provide respite for their foster homes)
- Become a CHOICE mentor through the Adoption Exchange (training and abbreviated home study to invite a teen to join your family for weekends/holidays)
- Or, email us with specific ideas or questions: email@example.com
Rest in peace, Adam. Thank you for showing us how to love.